If you went to college with me, there’s a big chance you may know today’s guest on the blog! I met Lyndsey in 2009 when we both joined the sisterhood of Alpha Delta Pi. Some of my best college memories come from being in ADPi, and I’m sure Lyndsey would agree! I had NO idea her and her husband were currently walking through infertility until we went public with our blog. This is her first time going public with their struggle, and I admire her bravery! I believe the most powerful tools we have are our stories. It’s pretty incredible how the courage of sharing your story can really inspire others and remind them that they aren’t alone. So, grab a cup of coffee, get comfortable, read her story and see all the great work the Lord has done through her and her husband!
Tell us something about yourself that has nothing to do with infertility.
I have a sweet fur child. He is a Labradoodle named Cooper Leo! We recently had a birthday party for him since he turned 1. I am a Director of a Before and After School Care Program. The kiddos I work with are in grades K-4. I absolutely love the kiddos in my program, and would do anything for them. I love girl’s nights with my best friends! It always involves lots of food, lots of laughs, and binge watching movies!
What has your journey looked like? Share your story!
Looking at this question, I have repeatedly asked myself, “Where do I begin?” For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with my weight, hormones, periods, and ovarian cysts. When I was in college I received the diagnoses of hypothyroid and PCOS. I was put on Armour Thyroid and Metformin medications. The Metformin can have the tendency to be really rough on your stomach!
My doctor at the time told me that since I had PCOS, it would be difficult for me to have children. I was even told that I would never be able to have children because of my “condition”, and the cysts on my ovaries. This was a very dark time for me, and I had a hard time processing this information. How could I be told I would never have a child of my own? I’m so young! My life almost felt like it was put on pause. I didn’t go to work for an entire week. It wasn’t until I got a phone call from a friend of mine who told me, “You never know what God’s plan is. God’s plan is bigger. Just pray. Trust in Him.”
“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.” – Isaiah 43:2
Flash forward to present day…When I got established with my current doctor, we discussed what I was told about not being able to have a baby. I will never forget his response, “I will never tell you that until we have exhausted any and all options.” Wow! This gave me hope. MANY months post birth control later…My husband, Gregory and I made an appointment to talk about our options. Unfortunately, we knew one day we could be facing an appointment like this. The anxiety at this point began to sink in. Every single “What if…?” scenario was being played in my head. I decided I needed to collect all of my thoughts and questions. I got a little notebook to make sure I had all of my questions put together before we met with the doctor.
Before writing any of my questions down, I wrote my favorite Bible verse on the first page, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; Do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9.
After our first appointment…We had to establish first and foremost – was I ovulating? What did my uterine lining look like? Was it healthy enough for a baby? We knew blood work and an ultrasound was next. Each step had to be a certain amount of days after my last cycle (I had been tracking my cycle for several months, so this made it easy! There are a lot of great apps out there for your smartphone!)
Our second appointment…We got my blood work results, and I had my ultrasound. Good news! I did ovulate… However, not so good news, my ovulation was “suboptimal”. Nonetheless, we still took this as overall positive news. Our next step was to have my husband tested to ensure everything checked out with him. It turned out that he was great and healthy! Praise God!
Our third appointment…Where do we go from here? My doctor walked us through our options:
- Clomid was on the table. However…
- You can only take it so many times in a lifetime.
- If there’s anything going on internally, then this medication will likely not be able to work to its full capacity.
- Laparoscopy with Chromotubation
- Laparoscopy takes a look at the outside of the uterus to see if there’s anything which may be causing infertility.
- Chromotubation is when they inject a colored liquid through the fallopian tubes – this checks for blockages, etc. Chromotubation has also been known to be very therapeutic as well.
After weighing out the options, we decided option two was the best. A couple months later, my husband, mom, grandmother and I arrived at the MMC SurgiCenter for surgery day. It was so great to have them there with me. No words can describe the amount of anxiety I had this day.
“When I am afraid I put my trust in you.” –Psalm 56:3
Through this surgery, they discovered I had endometriosis. Thankfully, my doctor was able to remove it ALL! Praise God! Finally, some answers! My doctor remains optimistic that removing the endometriosis will improve our chances of having a baby.
What are your next steps now?
Clomid was an option at our follow up appointment. We have decided to try and let my body heal, and see what happens. So now, we patiently wait and pray. We are hopeful. We are optimistic. We praise God for our MANY blessings. Our story is still being written.
“For I know the plans I have for you, Declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
What has God taught you through this journey?
God has taught and continues to teach me so much about myself daily. His plan is so much bigger than anything I could think of for myself. PATIENCE! Patience is a huge quality that He is continuing to help me learn. He has taught me I am not always in control and that is okay.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble, but take heart I have overcome the world.” –John 16:33
Where have you found encouragement through this journey? (Blogs, articles, friends, songs, quotes, verses?)
I find comfort and encouragement through my husband, family, friends, and bible verses. My family and friends have been so supportive throughout this entire journey. They have checked in after every doctor’s appointment, follow up, and surgery. They are always there when I have needed to talk, and have been so uplifting in times when I have felt down. I feel so immensely blessed by the people God has placed in my life.
Some of my favorite Bible verses are:
- “I will walk by faith even when I can not see.” – 2 Corinthians 5:7
- “Fear not, for I am with you. I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” –Isaiah 41:10
- “When I am afraid I put my trust in you.” –Psalm 56:3
How has this journey affected your friendships, relationships, and marriage?
This journey is not easy, and I would be lying if I said otherwise. Your emotions are constantly tested, and often times you feel like you’re on a roller coaster ride of emotions. When my husband and I first started this journey, we made a commitment to one another to be open about how we were feeling at all times. Whether it be we were scared, mad, sad, happy, and all of the emotions in between. I can never say enough that God blessed me with a truly wonderful man who I am able to call my husband. I count my blessings each day for him. My best friends – WOW! I have such amazing best friends who are truly my sisters. Without them life would not be nearly as fun! They always remind me to laugh, and have fun!
Why did you decide to share your story? What would you say to someone currently walking through infertility?
I’m sharing this to raise awareness to other women who may not know they have options. Don’t let a diagnoses define you, or even what a doctor tells you. Trust in God and His plan for your life. Yes, this journey is hard and mentally draining, but in the end God always has your back. Keep the lines of communication open with your husband. Share how you’re feeling. Reach out to the resources and people around you. You are never alone.
A note from the husband’s point of view:
There’s no other way to say it. Having to have a conversation with your wife about the future and starting a family should be an exciting time. It makes it very difficult when there are so many questions and unknowns! Lyndsey and I have always known that one day we would have to really sit and evaluate how we wanted to move forward when it came to our family plan. I knew it was going to be a trying time for the both of us, but I knew the best thing to do was to stay positive and be as supportive as I could. I caught myself worrying that maybe it wasn’t meant to be? What will we do if we are told we will never have children? I remember thinking the “what if’s” in my own mind over and over about what could happen, but I also knew that there was a greater plan for us. I kept counting my blessings. I have an amazing wife, and no matter what, we will always have each other! From sitting in the waiting room at the doctors office, to waiting for results, we were going through it together and that was the best part. We knew that no matter what the results were, we would come out stronger. It has been an eye opening experience for both of us, especially to see the outpouring of support from our friends and family. It would be impossible to get through anything like this without a great support system. I hope anyone going through anything like we have will learn from our story, and always remember that there are so many options to try before giving up! Regardless of how trying it may be, relish in the moments with each other, take the extra moments to hold each other just a little tighter, and always remember that it will be okay as long as you have each other! – Gregory
If you enjoyed Lyndsey and Greg’s story, check out this blog post . It shares the story of another couple who walked through infertility and were blessed three times over. Please keep Lyndsey and Greg in your prayers as they patiently await the Lords timing!