Lessons From My Momma
My momma is a gem. She’s full of faith, love, and so much wisdom. She struggled for three years before she had me, and she understands the walk of infertility. She is the middle sister out of the 3. These are just a few of the lessons she’s taught me as I walk this journey.
Lesson #1: Don’t stop praying.
My mom has taught me that infertility isn’t a small feat. It’s a battle, and the only way to fight is through prayer and scripture. She’s encouraged me to continually grab my Bible, find God’s promises, and say them out loud daily. She’s taught me to tell Him exactly what I need, and to remember to always be grateful for what He’s given me. She reminds me to hold tight to His word on the days I feel low. She’s encouraged me to write my prayers down and watch them get answered.
Lesson #2: Give out of the little you have left.
My momma used to see pregnant women out and about during those three years of waiting. Instead of getting upset when she would see them, she would stop and pray for them. She was also a nurse in the NICU during this time. As she would rock those babies, she would ask God to keep them healthy. She would pray that they would be blessed. She asked God to ensure they would do big things for the kingdom. She would pray for friend’s babies and stranger’s babies. She would continue to pray for all around her, even when she felt she couldn’t go much longer herself. She prayed constantly in her heart without anyone ever knowing, and she thanked the Lord for what was to come. My momma has taught me that when you truly trust in the Lord, you are always able to give out of the little you have left. A true, Godly giver gives out of their need. A Godly giver is the woman who gave only two coins in the bible when it was all she had left to her name. A Godly giver is the woman who poured all her wages in perfume on Jesus’ feet. A Godly giver prays for others and believes with others even if they are in the midst of struggle or need. Giving isn’t strictly monetary; it’s also from the heart. The Lord loves to see us give out of the little we have left.
Lesson #3: Find one or two friends who really get it, and confide in them.
Having the expectation that everyone around you is going to understand what you’re going through is unrealistic. You’re going to have people say things that are hurtful and even ignorant. Just because they don’t know the right things to say or what to do, doesn’t mean they don’t love or care for you deeply. Give those people grace. Find one or two friends who really understand. Confide in them. Thank the Lord for sending those friends who are able to listen and love well, and hold your hand as you go along. Not everyone can do that for you, and that’s okay. If you have just a few friends who will listen, that’s all you need.
Lesson #4: Start singing and dancing even when it’s the last thing you want to do.
Turn that music up loud, and worship the Lord when you want to cry. Praise Him and thank Him for His faithfulness, goodness, and provision. Thank Him for your present and your future. When you feel low, let your voice sing His praises as high as you can go. Start a Jesus dance party in your kitchen. You keep praising the Lord in the storm, because He will never let you down.
Lessons From My Aunt Tammy
My sweet Aunt Tammy is the oldest of the three sisters. She is the kindest, gentlest, and most patient woman you will know. She walked through infertility for 10 years, and then was blessed beyond belief when her and my uncle adopted my beautiful cousin Emmalee.
Lesson #5: God’s ways are bigger and a whole lot better than our ways.
Ten years she battled infertility. Ten years of baby showers and tears and questions for God. Each year that passed only led her closer and closer to the perfect gift God always intended for her. That perfect gift was my cousin Emmalee. After ten years of waiting, God sent my aunt and uncle the most precious gift in the form of a blue eyed, blonde haired baby girl. Emmalee has been the biggest blessing and source of complete joy to our family. She loves others with abundance, and she loves the Lord without fail. She makes our family complete and is such a light! Adoption was God’s heart for my aunt and uncle, and it has blessed all of us immensely. His ways were so much bigger and so much better.
Lessons From My Aunt Terri
My Aunt Terri was the youngest out of the 3 sisters. She is a lot of fun to be around, and she’s always been the one I turn to when I need advice or want to talk. She was never able to have children, but she has been a momma to so many.
Lesson #6: When you’re a spiritual Momma, you are a Momma to dozens.
My Aunt Terri has always played a special role in my life. She has always been my second Momma. I can confide in her things I wouldn’t tell most people. She speaks truth into me, even when it’s uncomfortable. When we’re together, she always sits down and really listens to me and encourages me. She has been a big source of wisdom as I’ve grown up, and I can’t imagine what I’d do without her life lessons. She has mothered me in unique, and extremely special ways. She has also done this to so many women throughout her life. She’s been there to encourage them, speak into them, and listen to them. She has dozens of “little ones” who look to her as a second mom. Her role in my life has been so inspiring, and I’m thankful for her. If you don’t have babies of your “own,” the Lord has already made you a spiritual momma. Start loving on those babies around you now. I promise the seeds you sow will reap lots of great things. I’ve seen it done time after time with my sweet Aunt Terri.
Whether you are a momma to miracle babies, adopted babies, or you have a host of spiritual babies, your role is so important. His ways are always bigger and better, and He will work in every situation!